What you have been through makes you who you are.
A man abused by his father told me he all too often finds that he has abused his own son. He did not want to. He did not mean to. He realized he was becoming his father and he trembled.
He was a good man. I have seen and applauded his change. Today, on a street corner, I saw a father strike his son. I became worried about what kind of father the son would be to his own son, in the next generation.
What causes such an action?
Was it genetic?
Was it hormonal?
Was it a necessary and deserved punishment for a one time boor behavior that I did not see? And whatever it is, I still believe that the man whom the boy will become will have the choice of how he wants to behave with his family.